Friends sometimes move in different directions and grow apart. Honor that growth by letting each other go, knowing that your work together in this lifetime is done. The manner of the letting go may hurt at the time, but the separation is for the better. I have a former friend who was very much into Comparison. He often compared himself to others and found others lacking, less advanced than he was. The whole point in working on ourselves as we walk our chosen path through life, as well as from one lifetime to the next, is to increase the frequency and clarity of our Soul’s energy. Time and distance have helped me understand that Comparison had become a power game with him. Judgement, judging others, can be the fertile soil for Comparison to grow in. One of the problems with Judgement, is that it can be the result of imbalance between the 2nd and 3rd Chakras. Our feelings are in the 2nd Chakra. If the feelings do not meet up with thoughts and beliefs, which are in the 3rd Chakra, we express opinions and judgements, not our emotions. Emotions = thoughts/beliefs + feelings.

Emotions flow back and forth along a continuum. For an easier visualization, picture a yard stick. The full range of our emotions all fit on that yard stick. Now, without thinking about this, name an emotion. Please don’t think about this. Just name an emotion. Now, if that emotion is on one end of the yard stick, say the end in your left hand, what emotion is on the other end of that continuum in your right hand? When we are younger, when we may not have started the work of increasing the frequency and clarity of our Souls in this particular lifetime, there may be fewer emotions, just the big categories, along that yard stick. So we might have started with “sad” on one end and “happy” on the other. As we get older and our personalities grow, our range of emotions expands. The left end might now be “furious”, “ecstatic” might now be at the right end, and “neutral” might be right in the middle. “Neutral” is always the center balance point, but there is an increasing spectrum of all the emotions to either side. Just as there are so many shades of blue or shades of green, there get to be so many shades of “happy” ranging from “OK” to “transformed”, etc.

When we match up our feelings to thoughts and beliefs, we can experience and express an entire spectrum of emotions the older we get and the more we mature. When we forget or fail to add our feelings to the equation, we can sit in Judgment, be stuck in comparison. We think, see, and speak hierarchy–always in terms of more than, better than, more gifted than–or–less than, never as good as, why did you even bother, etc.

In this moment, think about your thoughts and think about your words–the ones you say to yourself and the ones you say to others. Make the next emotion you feel for yourself and for the person next you a good one.